Make New Friends, But Keep the Old

Make New Friends, But Keep the Old

My guess is, now that you're in high school, your group has changed. It's not uncommon for people to drift apart once they get older. I certainly don't talk to the same people I used to. It may be because you are just different people now. It's not a bad thing to change who you talk to. I am going to give you a bit of advice on how to keep your friends but also make new ones. 

How To Maintain Good Relationships

I want to start off by letting you know how to maintain good relationships. I think to maintain good relationships with others is to just listen to what the other person is saying. Also, technology is great and innovative but can be taken the wrong way at times. An example would be how convenient texting is nowadays, but still just a regular phone call can serve the same purpose or even better. I feel like we lose our emotions via text and can't really express our tone of voice. The best way to keep a good relationship is to communicate with each other. This is where texting can be an issue. You may send something to someone but it could come off the wrong way. The best way is a phone call but if you prefer a text, be careful how you say something. The way something is said can often lead to arguments if not taken the right way.

How Can Selfishness Ruin Relationships?

Whether you tend to be a selfish person or not, it can affect the relationships you have. Listen, I know being selfish can get the best of us. Whether we usually are or not, it happens from time to time. Don't let it ruin your relationships. It is okay to put yourself first sometimes, but don't alway's expect to be put first by others. Being selfish won't help you make new friends and you may even lose some. When you are always expecting people to do things for you and do nothing in return, you tend to push them away. We are always so quick to think, "What about me?". It's in my experience that when you put other people above you, they will do the same. My point is, don't just think of yourself ALL the time. Take the time to help others and you may even learn something that will help you.

Learn How To Say Sorry

Listen, I've been friends with my best friend for 7+ years. We've been through literally everything together. My best friend knows everything about my life. You may be thinking, "How did you make it?". We made it this long because no matter what, we always had each others back. Of course we argued a lot but, who doesn't right? The only thing we had to do was say sorry and talk it out. Life is too short to let go of good friends for some silly argument that eventually won't mean anything. My advice to you is to make up with your friends. I lost some good friends in high school because of ridiculous things. Of course I wish I could change that but not all people are willing to move on. Its time we learn to work things out like adults and get on with life. Whether you are right or wrong, apologize to them anyway. I think sometimes the hardest part is having two people who think they are right so you end up being stuck. All I have to say is, be the better person and say sorry. Even if it's the most ridiculous thing, just do it. I promise you this will save a lot of relationships.

Show Your Friends That You Do Care

As I mentioned earlier, we tend to be selfish. We need to show our friends that we care about them. I can admit I have been selfish in my friendships. I always try to make sure I am there for my friends when they need me. Sometime's it's hard to always support them. I have learned that no matter how you feel about a decision they make, you have to put your feelings aside. No matter how much you may not like it, you have to think of them. If you want to keep your relationships, then you have to think of the other person too. It may be difficult but you have too in order to keep your friends.

How Can You Keep Old Friends While Making New Ones?

I understand things are changing a lot in high school. Everyone is getting older and it's getting closer to graduation. Sometimes it might be hard to make new friends if your old friends get kind of jealous. My advice is, just because you have a new friend doesn't mean you shut your other friends out. Now that I am in college and in a different place I've had to make new friends. That being said, I haven't pushed my friends from home away. I still communicate with them a lot. I've been in a position where a couple of my friends didn't really like each other. The only thing I could do was make sure to make time for both of them. You have to work with your friends to keep them, not against. I have also had a friend who I was friends with since we were kids and we went through the same thing. We were   young and she had another friend who I didn't really like. I didn't make her choose between us. No matter how we feel about it, we have to accept what is. We are getting older and we need to start thinking of others as well as ourselves. 

The Bottom Line About Friendships

The bottom line is, you can keep friends and make new ones. The best way of knowing if you have true friends is if they stick by you. I hope you enjoyed my post and think about some of my points. I also hope this may help you.












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  1. Amber HuffmanSeptember 20, 2017 at 11:25 AM

    I really enjoyed your post and your points on how to maintain friendships. It gets challenging in high school to keep friends but this might help people.

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  2. UnknownSeptember 20, 2017 at 8:40 PM

    Ellen, I can relate to the texting and calling paragraph. Sometimes my texts do come across the wrong way and sometimes I take a text the wrong way. You get more across with a phone call and I thinks if you have the time, a simple phone call would be better!

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    1. Ellen DusbiberSeptember 25, 2017 at 6:34 PM

      I have had this happen many times too. I have a friend right now who I disagree with about something and sometimes she will take something I say the wrong way. I don't try to come off rude in my opinions but we can't always control it.

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  3. UnknownSeptember 20, 2017 at 8:59 PM

    I was wondering what should you do when your old friends unfortunately don't accept the new friends that you made and get mad at you?

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    1. Ellen DusbiberSeptember 25, 2017 at 6:36 PM

      Just try to remain neutral. Maybe try and avoid talking about the person they don't like or not always let them know you are hanging out with them. You should never push away new friends cause your old friends don't like them. If they can't accept your new friend then maybe they weren't your true friend in the first place.

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